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Yes You Do Have Power To Change

Yes You Do Have Power To Change

Now to Him Who, by (in consequence of) the [action of His] power that is at work within us, is able to [carry out His purpose and] do super abundantly, far over and above all that we [dare] ask or think [infinitely beyond our highest prayers, desires, thoughts, hopes, or dreams]. Ephesians 3:20 [AMPC emphasis added]

How would you act differently if you knew beyond any shadow of doubt that you DO have power inside you to change?

As a Christian, we have God’s power residing inside us. But we don’t access it because we don’t know we have it nor how to put it to use.

God will not override our decisions, Therefore, it’s up to us to gain the knowledge about this power and then learn how to apply it to our situation. Let’s look at three major keys to accessing this power.

Believe – Get Rid of Your Excuses

We are taught that we don’t have power over our lives, circumstances, nor our future. But we do. The sooner we begin to believe this, the sooner we can do what’s necessary to transform our situations.

This belief of having power to change contradicts what society is teaching addicts, alcoholics, people with mental illness, people struggling with health issues or finances—that they are powerless to change.

Jesus said at Matthew 19:26: With men this is impossible, but all things are possible with God. Now it’s up to us to change our belief. And Jesus will help us: I believe, help me with my unbelief (Mark 9:24).

To help solidify our new belief, we have to look at the excuses we use which contain an element of unbelief:

  • I am an addict … a person with mental illness … the doctors say I have this ailment … I can’t rise above my financial situation, etc.
  • It is so-and-so’s fault that I am the way I am and I can’t change.
  • It’s impossible for me to change, I’ve failed so many times!

What are your excuses? Make a list of them in order to identify the lies. Then find Scriptures that contradict those lies and write those down. From this day forward we must take 100% responsibility for the outcomes in our lives.

Speak Forth Your Change

Proverbs 18:21 states: Death and life are in the power of the tongue; And they that love it shall eat the fruit thereof.

Many Scriptures teach that what we think and say have power that creates outcomes in our lives. (Do a Google search for Bible verses about speaking.) Even more powerful is to speak forth God’s Word as it contains a promise:

So shall My word be that goes forth out of My mouth: it shall not return to Me void [without producing any effect, useless], but it shall accomplish that which I please and purpose, and it shall prosper in the thing for which I sent it (Isaiah 55:11).

Once you have identified your excuses and looked up God’s promises and Scriptures that counter them, now you have something to look to when you begin to falter in your thinking.

After you deal with the excuses and your faulty beliefs about who you are and your past, now it is time to speak forth your future. This is powerful. Remember, you have God’s power inside you and this is one of the main ways to access it.

So, what are your dreams for your future? What are your hopes and dreams? These are pictures of what you want to do, not what you “don’t want to do (your current situation).”

Write out some statements about the future you want and locate Scriptures to help you in your journey to get there.

A personal example is my verse for Victorious Achievers and all the big visions I have for it which are supported by the verse for this ministry, especially the financial support needed:

And God is able to make all grace (every favor and earthly blessing) come to you in abundance, so that you may always and under all circumstances and whatever the need be self-sufficient [possessing enough to require no aid or support and furnished in abundance for every good work and charitable donation] 2 Corinthians 9:8.

When doubt and discouragement start to come, I recite this verse from memory—to remind myself of God’s promise and faithfulness to fulfill what He has called me to do.

Do you have a main verse to support the vision for your life that God has called you to fulfill? Have you memorized it so it’s available at your moment of doubt?

Take Physical Actions

I see a lot of people say they don’t have any power to change, but I rarely see someone do the physical things required if they knew they did have the power.

“I can’t stop my addiction.” Physically stop going to your dealer, stop making calls to set up a score, stop verbalizing your inadequacies, etc. Now, determine what physical actions you will do instead: preferably something to help you draw closer to obtaining your goals for an awesome future.

“I can’t do that because I have a mental illness.” Stop using the label of “mentally ill.” I talk to people every week who are so focused on their inability to do something because of this label that has been put on them. What are some physical actions you can take to go toward a goal you thought was impossible because of your identity of a mentally ill person? Write them down.

“I will never increase my financial income.” If you knew (believed) that your financial circumstances could be changed, what would you do? Financial income can be improved by following systems that work and are successful for others. It’s not always a personal, internal blockage that stops us. If it worked to others, it CAN work for me too! Just do it! The power shows up when you take the action (instead of only planning and learning).

Leave a reply below on one or two actions you will take as a result of reading this article.

Controlling Emotions After Drug Rehab

Controlling Emotions After Drug Rehab

For as he thinks in his heart, so is he. Proverbs 23:7

You survived your stay in a drug rehab and are excited to be out. Now comes the hard work! I have seen too many people relapse within the first couple of weeks after getting out of rehab because they don’t know how to handle their emotions.

Before I delve into how to control your emotions, I need you to think about your answers to the following questions. They all provide fuel to be able to control your emotions and therefore not relapse.

  • Did they teach you how to control your emotions when in rehab?
  • Did you address your deep, underlying issues that bring up the negative emotions that you used your drug to escape from?
  • Did you identify what (or who) triggers you to get angry or mad and then use? And did they show you a different way to respond?
  • Did they teach you how to forgive those who hurt you?
  • Did you learn how to take 100% responsibility for your life from this point forward?
  • Did they show you how to allow God to help you in your daily walk to stay clean?
  • Do you have a vision for an awesome future–or is your goal “not” to do drugs?
  • Do you feel equipped to handle anything? Yes, you DO have power to change your life!

A lot of our beliefs play into our emotional state. We tend to have self-talk around what we believe we can or cannot do. Here are a few examples:

  • I can’t handle this
  • I can’t help myself, that’s just the way I am
  • I can never forgive that person for what they did (or didn’t do) to me
  • I can’t forgive myself
  • I have a tendency to relapse, I guess that’s just the way I am
  • I am what I am, I cannot change
  • Why try when I know I will relapse again?

Today I will address our thought life and how it needs to be controlled in order to control our emotions.

You may have all kinds of thoughts of fear of relapse, can you really stay clean this time, what will others think of you, how can I prove to myself and others that I am really ready to change?

Our thoughts come from our beliefs. Our beliefs come from growing up, life experiences, influence of others, and our own stinking thinking. These thoughts provide pictures in our mind.

We need to change the pictures we create by our thoughts and words. Your mind goes to where the pictures take you.

If you think “I don’t want to do my addiction,” the picture of your addiction pops up. The goal is to find a better story to focus on. Stories that include:

  • This is what I want my future to look like – see it, feel the emotions of accomplishing it
  • When I get triggered, I have a new, empowering way to respond – see yourself responding differently and calmly, walking away from the situation, telling people you don’t want to discuss that.
  • I need not fear because God is with me and guiding me
  • I do have power to change my life and when I operate in that power, this is what I will do (list the actions).

The goal is, once the underlying issues have been identified and dealt with as to why you use drugs or alcohol, to stop associating with your former habit of being an addict … and stop hanging around other people in recovery who only focus on their recovery (unless you are court-ordered to do certain programs).

Here is how the normal recovery process keeps a person in bondage. If I tell you not to think about a green frog … what just popped into your mind? Yup, a green frog. Imagine that green frog as your “addiction.” The goal is to stop thinking about a green frog (your addiction). You attend weekly (or daily) support groups that talk about the green frog. You get a sponsor to help you stop thinking about the green frog. You call your sponsor to talk about how you can’t stop thinking about the green frog. But you can’t.

The only way to stop thinking about the green frog is to replace it with a bigger and better picture of your future. God’s way of doing that is for us to use our passion in life to reach out to love and serve others.

But seek (aim at and strive after) first of all His kingdom and His righteousness (His way of doing and being right), and then all these things taken together will be given you besides. Matthew 6:33

I used to think that the above verse was only talking about seeking my relationship with God and deepening it. But it says to seek His kingdom. This is a way of life … and one that will satisfy the deepest longings inside us for love and connection.

You don’t have to spend the rest of your life in recovery groups. But, yes, you do need to be in groups where you can connect with like-minded people. Check to see if your church has small groups you can attend.

Hope for Loved Ones of Addicts

I don’t know where you are at in your journey with the person in your life who is addicted to alcohol or drugs. But I do recognize you have a lot of unanswered questions around this relationship.

I know I did.

How can you “influence” this person? I’m sure you’ve heard that you cannot “change” an addict. In fact, we can’t change anybody besides ourselves. You can’t change a toddler, but you can influence the child’s behavior and plenty of books exist on how to do this.

But where’s the book to help the loved ones of an addict to not only “influence” the addict, but also help you take back YOUR life?

Your life can be one without all the drama . . .

I’m not saying it’s going to be easy to change, but I do have a process that you can follow that will help you change. And as you change, you can teach the addict the same process so they can get hope and start making little changes too.

If you want quick access to this process, check out my book on Amazon: My Friend Is an Addict – What Can I Do? Use the Roadmap Out of Addiction to Influence Your Friend And To Take Back Your Life.

You can always email me your questions regarding your personal situation. Kathy@VictoriousAchievers.com

You Can Have Victory Over Your Problems

Are you struggling with anxiety, depression, fears, loneliness, or relationship problems?

Perhaps after going through the pandemic you’re not getting back to being your normal self as quickly as you thought you could.

Or maybe your financial situation drastically changed due to the pandemic and now today’s inflation prices.

So how do you have victory over the problems you’re dealing with today?

It’s going to take a major shift in what you focus on.

Instead of focusing on your anxiety or depression, pull your dreams for your life off the shelf and develop a picture in your mind of what you want your life to look like, feel like, what relationships do you want, what kind of financial abundance, and how do you want to make a positive impact in the world?

What Does the Bible Say About My Problems?

The Bible says “For as he thinks in his heart, so is he (Proverbs 23:7 AMPC).”

Are you telling yourself “I can’t handle this.” “Things will never get better.” “Nothing turns out right for me.” “I will never break this poverty mentality.”  “I am not worthy of being loved and have great relationships.” “I can’t break out of this depression.” “My whole family is like this, I guess I’m doomed too.”

That kind of thinking will produce the results you just thought about or spoke out loud.

Time To Switch Up Your Focus

Now, it’s time to switch your thoughts and words.

  • Yes, I can handle this. It may be hard, but I CAN and WILL handle it.
  • As I follow God’s guidance, and plans for my life, things in my life will get better. God doesn’t have favorites, so what He has done for someone else, He can also do that in my life.
  • My mental focus about money is now focused on how it is God Who gives me the strength and will to do good, and He will bless the work of my hands. God created everything, including the principles for great living (which include financial abundance), and I will begin to memorize those promises.
  • Yes, I am loved by God . . . and many other people. God loves me because He is love. It is not based upon any good deeds I do.
  • This depression must leave as I change my focus toward God and His will for my life. I will no longer use this label of “I’ve got depression.” and instead speak “I am full of life and vitality as God guides me and I follow His path for me.
  • My family history (and my own history) do not determine my future. I choose to seek God and learn how to love and serve others . . . thereby breaking the generational chain of living below God’s best!

I hope you’ve gotten some good ideas. Stay tuned for more inspiration in the days ahead.