Who Else Wants To Get
Their Life Back While Having
An Addict In Your Life Who
Dominates and Controls You?

In Three Months Or Less . . . Change Your Behaviors,
Live in Peace Every Day, No Longer Be Triggered,
and Find Your Path in Life Toward Fulfilling
God’s Call on Your Life!

Whether or Not The Addict Gets Clean

Hi, I’m Kathy Williamson, Author, Coach & Trainer . . . a former addict and a former spouse of an ex-addict/narcissist who sucked my life out of me, but I got it back!

Are you tired of the emotional roller coaster of hearing the addict’s promises to quit, getting your hopes up, only to see no progress?

Do you believe the lies the addict throws at you about how his drinking or abuse of drugs are all caused by you and your behaviors?

When the addict does go into rehab, you get a glimmer of hope … just a glimmer … only for it to be dashed when the addict quits the program early or relapses shortly after being released.

If you have children, their lives are impacted more than you can imagine.

Do you feel yourself slipping further down into an attitude of hopelessness?

You are torn apart emotionally because you love this person, you want to do whatever you can to help him or her, but most of the places you turn to for help are not able to show you how …

… let alone tell you how to get YOUR life back under your control.

What is it costing you to stay in the emotional state where you’re at?

• Living in constant fear because you don’t know if he or she will come home drunk or how angry they will be today.
• Withdrawals from relationships that really mean a lot to you.
• You don’t have the energy to function at the level you need to in order to be the person you were created to be.
• You have a passion in life, but can’t reach it because of your current situation.
• The dreams for your life have been put on the back burner until a later time when you are back to living a normal life.

If you stay where you’re at emotionally, the drama in your life will just get worse.

How bad do things need to get before you seek out help?

• Continued guilt and shame because the addict blames you for everything
• Lose significant relationships and end up in isolation
• Perhaps repeated 911 calls due to physical abuse
• The addict goes to jail or prison and you are stuck with children and no income

If you are serious about improving your life, then you’ve come to the right place.

I was Married to an Ex-Addict, Paranoid, Narcissistic, and Pathological Liar!

I woke up one morning about two years into the marriage and realized I had allowed my life to be sucked out of me. I wanted it back. I had many struggles as I did this.

As a Christian, I wanted to make sure I wasn’t disobeying God if I divorced my husband. In the end, even though I lost everything I owned except what I could fit in my car and a few boxes I mailed to a relative, I got my life back.

I want to encourage you to believe that it is possible for you to get your life back, even while trying to influence your addict spouse. I have a special chapter in my book on living with an addicted spouse that can give you some insight and hope that change … for you … is possible.

The Biblical Roadmap to Freedom For a Higher Purpose

Having gone through my own addiction, and ten years of relapsing, I am aware of the issues and internal stinking thinking that addicts go through. While I did attend Christian-based AA groups for a while during that time, they do not cover everything necessary to help a person overcome their addiction and start living a wonderful life again.

Thus I created my own process which includes elements that are missing from today’s recovery programs.

The good news is that the same process can be applied to people whose lives have been impacted by the addict in their lives. Therefore, a person can use this Biblical Roadmap to influence the addict to change, as well as apply it to their own life to improve it.

In the Biblical Roadmap process that I created I teach the following 7 C’s to Transformation, which can also be applied to other problems in life. The process is explained in-depth in my book for addicts: How to Stop Relapsing: Biblical Guidance to Replace Addictions with Immediate Hope, Permanent Healing, and Abundant Living.

These steps must be implemented in the order presented:

1. Choose Your Destination. You know what you don’t want in your life—but what do you want instead?
2. Change Your Focus. Identify your passion in life and have it active in your life on a weekly basis. Write a new vision for your life based upon using your passion in life (God’s call on your life) to reach out to love and serve others.
3. Control Your Emotions. This is critical for you. Does God really promise that we can control all of our emotions?
4. Challenge Your Beliefs. Evaluate your beliefs, thoughts and self-talk. Henry Ford said “If you believe you can or you can’t, you’re right.” You must believe in yourself, despite your current interactions with the addict or alcoholic in your life. Your beliefs create the picture in your mind, and your mind makes that picture come true—no matter how much willpower you have. Your new beliefs will allow you to ignore the negative name-calling the addict or alcoholic is using to try to blame you for his or her addiction.
5. Clarify The Issues. You as the spouse or family member of an addict may not have any issues that contributed to the loved one’s behavior, but you may be struggling with the drama and chaos caused by the addict’s behaviors. Identify your issues and learn how to handle them in a manner that doesn’t put your life in a downward spiral.
6. Communicate With Purpose. How do you get through to the addict? What can you say to influence him or her? Instead of knee-jerk reactions, learn ways to start meaningful conversations with the addict. Do you know your love language? How about the love language of the addict? Learn how to set boundaries in love.
7. Change Your Lifestyle. Before a person can change, they need to know what needs changing. Deepening your relationship with God is the foremost change that affects every area of our lives. The top eight areas of change will clear the way to walk in God’s favor and blessings.

Because of my unique perspective (having been both an addict and the wife of an addict who had the life sucked out of her), I am able to cut to the chase and avoid any long, drawn-out process!

While you can figure out some of these things on your own, since I have walked in both the shoes of the addict and the wife of an addict/narcissist, God has given me unique wisdom to identify the underlying issues in people and the steps necessary to change their behaviors.

I also come from the viewpoint that the loved one of the addict is not the problem. You are not broken, damaged, nor codependent.

I honor you for staying in your relationship with the addict and doing everything you can to try to save it. Some would call this enabling or being codependent—I call it love.

While other programs tell you that you cannot change the addict, that it is best to leave him or her, I show you a proven step-by-step method to influence the addict. In reality, nobody can change anyone. Think about a toddler. They need to be changed in their behaviors. So people buy books on what you can do influence the toddler to change their behavior. My process I teach guides you on how you can influence the addict — probably better than a rehab program!

Caution: Will all addicts change? It depends. You can lead a horse to water, but unless they are thirsty, you can’t make them drink. So, you do things to make them thirsty. I teach you how to influence the addict so he or she becomes thirsty enough to change.

What if they never change? Are you stuck? It depends. God does not want us staying in abusive relationships, whether physical or verbally. I can share what worked for me, but you will have to make your own decision.

What would change in your life if your reactive behavior to the addict was different?

• Your spark for life would be back
• Relationships restored
• Freedom from stress and worry
• Your passion in life would be back

A Brighter Future Awaits You!

By working with me through my three-month Let Hope Arise Coaching Intensive here are some benefits:

• You will have the skills to handle stress, anxieties, and emotional hurts that may arise in your future.
• Your life will be transformed . . . instead of living from a place of fear and timidity, you have boldness to live life full out.
• You will know how to best influence the addict in your life.
• If you don’t know what your passion is in your life or what your destiny is, we will uncover it together.
• If you have any mindset issues that keep you from obtaining wealth, relationships, or living your life on fire, they will be identified and resolved.
• If you are undecided on whether to leave the relationship, different options will be discussed in detail.
• You will have a plan of action to follow to use your passion in life to reach out to love and serve others.

Imagine yourself . . . in just three short months . . . being free from your emotional roller coaster. Freedom to be yourself again and to play full out in life! But you have to be willing to put in the work to make this happen.

What would it feel like to live every day without the stress of your current triggers?

To once again feel the passion well up inside you as you dream of pursing the path to your awesome future!

Life is too short to stay stuck in your hell hole!

Now is the time to take action to get your life back on track.

It’s Decision Time!

This is a three-month Let Hope Arise Coaching Intensive (online or via phone). Here is how it operates:

• Weekly 45 minute one-on-one coaching calls online via Zoom (or over the phone). Each uniquely designed to move you from where you are currently stuck to where you want to be living your life. The transformation continues for the entire three months. If you need to continue beyond the three months, monthly coaching is available until you are well on your way to freedom and living out God’s call on your life.
• We begin with deepening your relationship with God, moving on to your internal blockages, and  I teach you with specific goals in mind and give you specific internal and external strategies to reach them.
• Personal encouragement and accountability.

If all you want to do is whine, this program is not for you. Or if your only focus is to change the addict, while leaving your life in shambles, then it’s not for you.

This is not a program that goes on forever. It can be extended beyond the three-month basic program should issues develop that need further time to resolve. If you don’t think that your life can be changed in as little as three months, then this is a belief you need to identify and change.

By initially limiting the program to three months, we work to accomplish major changes quickly, rather than have them drawn out for months or years.

One thing I’ve learned about changing things . . . whether it is changing a habit, or writing a report . . . it will take as long as the time limit we give it.

I’ve also learned that a change in certain areas of our lives dramatically shortens the time it takes to change other areas of our lives.

That’s why it only takes three months to make a radical transformation in your life.

That is . . . if you come to the table being willing to play full-out!

Your First Step

Prior to signing up for my 3-month, weekly one-on-one coaching program, I want to have a session with you to give you the encouragement and personal insights you need to believe in yourself and God and that the two of you can, and will, make these permanent changes in your life.

Before you click the link below, let me tell you what you will get in this initial call.

In this 45 minute Let Hope Arise Session, we will review where you are at in regards to your relationship with the addict in your life, and move on to building an awesome future.

You will leave with three action steps you can do immediately to bring hope and peace in your life.

The last 5 minutes we will discuss if you desire to continue coaching through my 3-month Let Hope Arise Coaching Intensive.

Once you sign up for this 45-minute Let Hope Arise Session, you will receive the following. While the Study Guide is geared for the addict, you can see what the process looks like.

In fact, I suggest you forward them to the addict in your life. You never know what that person will do when they are by themselves, wondering how in the world can they change!

• A downloadable PDF of the framework of The Biblical Roadmap to Freedom for a Higher Purpose, which you learned above (4 pages).
• A downloadable PDF of the study guide version of my book How To Stop Relapsing: Biblical Guidance to Replace Your Addiction With Immediate Hope, Permanent Healing, and Abundant Living (133 pages, 8.5” x 11” ready to print).
• Conversation Starters. The start to influence the addict in your life.

With these new insights in your possession, you now have the beginning steps to change your life forever.

But if you don’t take action today, how bad do you have to get before you will?

Remember, with God, all things are possible!

While this Let Hope Arise Session is $75.00, I want you to know that your investment is actually planting a seed into this outreach. It helps us spread this good news of the gospel and God’s way to change people struggling with addictions, and the lives of those who love them.

Your $75 seed grows a harvest that you also reap from. God always blesses those who give to help spread the gospel!

So I encourage you to click the link below to schedule your Let Hope Arise Session to start your journey to a radically transformed life filled with love, connection, and purpose.

The first 3 steps to starting your awesome journey are only a click away.

CLICK HERE to book your 45 Minute Let Hope Arise Session and pay the $75 – before my calendar fills up

I look forward to helping you transform your life to become the person beyond your wildest dreams. You can impact your world by reaching your personal vision for your life!

Kathy

Kathy Williamson
Author, Coach & Trainer

P.S. Stop living in drama every day! It affects your physical and mental health. You deserve better! Your life CAN be better. Click Here NOW to book your Let Hope Arise session.

God is Waiting to Help You!